inclusion and safety for all genders and sexualities

this topic has been on my mind for a while. increasingly, we find ourselves living in a time when creating inclusive and safer spaces feels more relevant—and more

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supporting someone after sexual assault

If someone you care about has been sexually assaulted, you’re not alone in feeling unsure about what to say or do. Many people worry about making things worse

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pleasure activism for counsellors

Take a moment. Take a moment, and see if you can conjure a memory of a time when you felt really good. What were you doing? Who were

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honesty without compassion is abuse

when i was a young adult and first learned how to speak my truth, i was a little bit reckless with it, a little bit clumsy. the impetus

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a love letter for stepparents

~originally published in elephant journal~this is a letter for stepparents - of a particular kind. i'm not talking about the ones who have a good situation, though i'm

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4 things you should know about pedophilia

"child sexual abuse (csa) is possibly one of the only offenses where people collectively 'feel the response before they deliberately consider the issue'. this reaction will often extend

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thresholds of choice, contagions of care: dating across divides

in pondering the topic of sex, dating, and the pandemic, i questioned whether this article had to be about covid and the vaccine passports, imagining the many ways

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naked men

~ originally written as a speech for the 2022 men in tubs calendar launch ~i love naked men. i do. i love the humility of the naked body,

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beyond talk therapy: alternative therapies for teens

Working with teens in the counselling space can be incredibly rich and rewarding - and it also holds its own considerations. Beyond basics like whether they've come to

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the art of play in therapy

The Art Of Play In TherapySome time ago I was speaking with one of my academic mentors about therapeutic approaches and he said, “You should be experimenting in

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