standing on the shore of a loved one’s addiction

Not infrequently, I will receive a call from someone who is looking for help with addiction. In these calls I’m thinking about, it’s not the person suffering the

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how to find the right counsellor

When I began my master’s degree in counselling, the first thing that struck me was how genuinely warm and kind my classmates were. In a roomful of people

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curious questions

"There’s no such thing as a stupid question.”Or, as one of my teachers said, “Yes there are, but those are outliers and they don’t count.” The simple truth

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how to say no

When my daughter was little, I posted some affirmations up around her room. On heart-shaped post-it notes were statements like, “I am funny” and “I am kind.” In

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the wonder of wonder

I love the quality of wonder. It evokes curiosity, exploration, and the humility to simply not have all the answers. When we wonder, we ask questions. We open

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slowing anger down

Anger has a fast, hot, destructive quality, and those that struggle with it know all too well the remorse and shame that result when they have let it

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grandmother wisdom

Years ago a healer said to me, “Go home. Nurture your inner grandmother. Put on a bathrobe. Make yourself some tea.” In high school Sister Josephine started her

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